no sleep

We are the worst parents ever, and the toll of it is beginning to ware on me. From day one of bringing Bostyn home I rarely could ever put her down. I wanted to constantly be holding her, like I'm sure most new parents do. I wanted her to sleep in our room in a bassinet because I was afraid of putting her in her room away from us. Then we went to the co-sleeping method. Then to the crib. Then to the swing and she slept amazing. At 6 weeks she was sleeping from 10pm-9am. It was amazing till about 6 months. Then It suddenly changed. She was waking up like every 3 or 4 hours to play, eat, or cry. Since then I tried getting her back on a schedule so she would sleep through the night. We read all the books, tried all the methods, talked to the pediatrician. Nothing.  Slowly I stopped trying so hard and have just been dealing with the nights. Mac and I pretty much let her go to bed when she wants, don't have her on any kind of eating schedule, I get up with her every freaking time she wakes up in the middle of the night which is at least 3 times. I feel like we tried everything, but now I feel like its really a lost cause. Now I really am praying she grows out of it by some miracle. I talk to my friends about their babies schedules, and yes, all of them are on one, sleeping like 10-12 hours a night. Uh! I don't know what I did wrong with Bostyn.  We really have been the worst parents with bedtime. I just gave up trying. I'm exhausted. And I cant put Bostyn down when I'm ready for bed because that's at like 7:00 and she is NEVER ready for bed at 7. And she has to go to bed on a full stomach or else she will wake up 5 times in stead of 3. I'm kinda out of Ideas. Especially now that she is 9 months I feel like the damage has been done. Anyway....I'm tired, I really hope she is in the 1% of kids that grow out of it.
Mac helps as much as he can. School is taking over his life and he has to put lots of time into it. He studies all night pretty much every night to get ready for a test or quiz he has literally every other day, Plus work on top of it. He's not getting much sleep either. Plus he has been gone hunting all month, which is fine but I don't feel bad for him when he say's that's made him even more tired
So its kind of been a rough month for me not having Mac home to help much, and getting almost no sleep for the past 4 months, but we'll make it. Its all part of being a mom. And I still love it.