The Hush Family

Stay at home moms, has been a big topic lately in the media. I read something today that I really liked that was written by Matt Walsh. I don't know if many people follow him or read his blog, but my family and I do.  Basically, he's awesome.  I came across this on Facebook and read the link and clicked on it, because it was about stay at home moms, which I obviously can relate to. This is the link below.  I suggest reading it, especially moms, or soon to be moms…..just everyone basically. :)

“You’re a stay-at-home mom? What do you DO all day?”

If you don't want to read it,  these are how the conversations go… (From theMatt Walsh Blog)

[ It’s happened twice in a week, and they were both women. Anyone ought to have more class than this, but women — especially women — should damn well know better.

Last week, I was at the pharmacy and a friendly lady approached me.

“Matt! How are those little ones doing?”

“Great! They’re doing very well, thanks for asking.”

“Good to hear. How ’bout your wife? Is she back at work yet?”

“Well she’s working hard at home, taking care of the kids. But she’s not going back into the workforce, if that’s what you mean.”

“Oh fun! That must be nice!”

“Fun? It’s a lot of hard work. Rewarding, yes. Fun? Not always.”

This one wasn’t in-your-face. It was only quietly presumptuous and subversively condescending.

The next incident occurred today at the coffee shop. It started in similar fashion; a friendly exchange about how things are coming along with the babies. The conversation quickly derailed when the woman hit me with this:

“So is your wife staying at home permanently?”

“Permanently? Well, for the foreseeable future she will be raising the kids full time, yes.”

“Yeah, mine is 14 now. But I’ve had a career the whole time as well. I can’t imagine being a stay at home mom. I would get so antsy. [Giggles] What does she DO all day?”

“Oh, just absolutely everything. What do you do all day?”

“…Me? Ha! I WORK!”

“My wife never stops working. Meanwhile, it’s the middle of the afternoon and we’re both at a coffee shop. I’m sure my wife would love to have time to sit down and drink a coffee. It’s nice to get a break, isn’t it?”

The conversation ended less amicably than it began. ]

He then goes on to talk about how, really most professional women arent "rude and smug" And I agree with him, I have lots of family and friends who work out side the home for whatever reason and it doesn't matter what the reason is, they do it. I look up to most of them, and think they are amazing women. And I for the most part don't feel like I have family or very many friends who make me feel "less than" for being one. But I've had a couple for sure.

I alway tease Mac when he asks me if I have any cash/or money? My response is usually something like this "Oh sorry honey, I didn't get a pay check this week" Or,  "No, I work for free, good thing I have my sugar daddy"  We just end up laughing about it, and he'll come over and give me a hug and a kiss. 

I'm sure a lot of people think, "Well clearly you have the opinion you do because your a stay at home mom yourself" My opinion isn't what it is ONLY because I'm lucky enough to be a stay at home mom, Its because I was raised by one. I know what its like to come home every single day of, Elementary School, Jr High, and High School, knowing that my mom was home waiting for me. I knew that she was ALWAYS there if I needed her.  She would drop everything WHEN we needed her. When I say "drop everything" I mean, drop the clothes she was folding or the dishes she was doing, or cut her grocery store outing short so that she could come check me out of school because I was sick. Whatever it was! She was always there. Not just emotionally like, "Hey I'm here if you need to talk" but physically there. Always helping us get ready for school in the mornings, physically there supporting all of our hobbies and after school activities. Rarely did she ever get to go do stuff for her self, and when she did, it was usually cut short by one of us urgently needing something. 

So thank you mom for all that you did, and still do for us! Love you!!!